Psycho: Do not add in the negative

To contact someone, we must first accept it as it is, then accept what he says, even if you disagree. You must give him the freedom to think differently from you and show it you. Feeling accepted, it will be less defensive and open exchange. Yes, but ...

Wisely

But we must use this approach with caution! Indeed, in some cases, the other says no to certain things as you confirm, but rather for you to act. Be very subtle to detect. A very simple example? When a woman says to her husband: "do not you think that I have grown?" The best answer is not specifically to go in his direction to respond: "Yes, yes, you've really grown a lot ". It is not certain that this response facilitates communication of torque!

Similarly, if someone says: "I am badly unraveled in this case, it is not worth replying:" Yes it's true, you really do not know you cope, you've made the opposite of what should have been done and we must recognize that at times you really zero! "